Many people chastise "gym moms" and the like for "living vicariously through their children."
Well, I'll admit I fall into that role at times.
My youngest son had his third-ever gymnastics competition yesterday, and I think I was more nervous than he was. A veteran gym mom laughed when I admitted my nerves. "It's just Level 4," she told me. And yes, it is true, the outcome of a single meet doesn't affect a career. Not that I'm claiming my son has a career in gymnastics, mind you, just... I was a competitive dancer in my youth. ("Way back when we walked to school in the snow, uphill, both directions.")
I miss dance.
It was such a huge part of me, and then I shooed it away because it was the "practical" thing to do. It made more sense to focus on schoolwork, because that is what was going to get me into a good college. And then once I was in college, I didn't want to do something "frivolous" like dance, because I had to get good grades in order to get into grad school. And then I ended up nearly middle-aged, no longer athletic, not happy with my "practical career choice" and dreaming about how happy and free I felt when I danced.
Fortunately I've been clawing my way back from inactivity. From doing the 30 Day Shred in 2009 to Project 2010k last year, to now doing Dailey Method classes, I'm starting to remember what it feels like to have physical accomplishment.
Meanwhile, my youngest son continues to develop his gymnastics skill exponentially.
During his first meet, he could only do a single circle on the pommel mushroom, whereas the Level 4 routine is to do 3.5 circles. This meant that he had to repeat his one clean circle three times with "fall" deductions between the circles. During his second meet, he did a double circle, then did a circle and a half to complete the 3.5 circle routine. Of course his score went up dramatically. Before yesterday's meet, he was consistently hitting at least two circles, usually able to complete the "bonus" routine of 5.5 circles during practice. His coaches gave him the go-ahead to compete the bonus routine.
As he smiled at me from across the gym and mouthed, "Five and a half!" while writing it in the air, my stomach tightened. I really wanted him to hit the 5.5. Most young Level 4 gymnasts are barely able to do to the regular routine, much less the bonus. My competitive side kicked in big time, especially since another mom at the gym had told me, "They'll never let him compete the 5.5!"
Well, after warming up the 5.5 routine, he had three other events before he competed pommel. Unfortunately, since the meet was "traditional warm-up style" it meant that the gymnasts competed on each event without a subsequent warm-up.
His on-the-pommel-horse routine was gorgeous. His legs went up high and he stuck his landing. But when he went to the mushroom, he slid off after only 2 circles. He then got back on, and completed the 1.5 additional circles for the basic 3.5 routine. (If a gymnast falls before 3.5, they cannot do the bonus 5.5.)
I was disappointed, but I tried not to let it show. After all, my son was smiling. He was having fun. He shook off the fall and was happy to receive a moderately good score (his on-the-horse must have scored high, and then his circles were very clean even though he fell.) Meanwhile, one of his teammates competed the bonus 5.5, but received the same score grade. (His raw score was probably higher, but the quality of his circles was not terrific.)
In a way, not being able to complete the 5.5 circle routine might end up helping him at the next meet since he'll continue to practice and he'll know that even if he falls, it is okay. Or perhaps that's just the advice I need to give myself.
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The overall meet was a success - his team took 1st place! Plus, we won a raffle prize.




Comments (3)
Oh, Kari. I totally get it. I'm the same way with swim meets. I let the girls take the lead, but I can barely contain my enthusiasm when they choose to go the extra mile (or the extra 25m or 50m, as it were).
Congrats to your little athlete on such a great meet!
Posted by Julie @ The Mom Slant | January 31, 2011 4:25 PM
Posted on January 31, 2011 16:25
i bet you are awesome as a gym-mom and your sweet boy is lucky to have you cheering him on and supporting him!
and OMG how cute were you as a little girl!!!!
Posted by Laura Scarborough
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February 1, 2011 8:15 AM
Posted on February 1, 2011 08:15
Eh, I totally live vicariously through my kid :) You look adorable up there, as does your son. I was in no way an athlete and to my family academics was everything. it's tough for me sometimes to adjust but I love watching my kids excel at sports and never want them to give it up for "something practical"
Posted by Nicole | February 1, 2011 12:21 PM
Posted on February 1, 2011 12:21